Do you judge other Moms? It is in our nature to quickly size up a situation, so I'm not talking about the quick flashes of judgement that cross your mind when you happen to see another Mom in your daily life.
Those flashes are more like a quick categorizing: new Mom, happy mom, mom who can't find her keys, mom with cute shoes, etc. Those are harmless and we could never stop them. We are wired to do it.
I'm talking about the darker judgements that most Moms won't come clean about. Being a Mom is one of the hardest roles any of us will ever take on and yet, we Moms can be cliquish, catty and judgemental.
I wanted to join this wonderful empowering movement because I know how it feels to be judged and excluded. I also know first hand how right it can feel to pass judgement.
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| Courtesy: StrongMoms.com |
I am a work at home Mom, heavy emphasis on the word work, but to some Moms within my community the term work at home translates to "lazy".
I see it cross their faces at school events when the meet and greet time starts. I hear it in their thinly veiled (and sometimes not so thinly veiled) comments like " Oh, how lucky you are to be home all day! I bet you get everything done!
Or, they assume I should take on every school project because I don't have anything better to do. I want to say to them, I DO plenty daily. I want to SHOUT" I am doing it all" and I am no where near lazy! But, instead I fume and I judge them right back.
This cycle has to stop Moms! And it stops with each and every one of us taking a good look at ourselves and seeing if there is room for improvement and change.
I invite you to read some other Strong Moms who have taken the pledge with me. Please read this moving post " Dear Mom on the iPhone and the Scary Mommy Manifesto.
Then go to StrongMomsEmpower.com and join us.
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