Middle School Changes Everything



As of this morning, my kids have been back at school 3 and one half days.  So far all is going well.  I will stop here and do something necessary and deserved: I will pat myself on the back and proclaim to all who can hear me (the cat) “Way to go Linda”, you’ve got this new schedule down!”

Okay, enough of that, back to reality where I pray most sincerely that we all can keep up the pace needed this year to ensure everybody gets to where they need to be every morning in a calm and orderly fashion.  On  time.  With all supplies needed for the day present and accounted for.  Amen.

All women, especially Moms juggle all day every day; this is a simple fact of life. As a work at home Mom,   I pride myself on my planning and time management skills, but as the title of this post suggests: middle school changes everything!

 Ms. T is in 7th grade this year with a new start time, bus route; dismiss time, dress code, etc. Everything changed because of the dreaded re-zoning that took place last spring. Our small community fought long and hard with the powers that be to stay at our nice K through 8 school, but change came anyway.

So, I do what I always try to do: I find the good in the situation! And, thankfully there is a lot of good to be found at our new schools.

Still, I have to say, the earliness in which we all must get up now is hard to get used to! Even with planning and practicing the new schedule 2 weeks prior to school starting, we all are dragging our collective behinds by 8 p.m. or 9 p.m. ( depending on the age of the draggy)!  

Ms. T’s alarm goes off at 5:30 a.m. She immediately wakes up, turns it off and quietly comes in to see if I’m awake.  I’m smiling as I type this because my girl shows such responsibility and love in doing this. No sooner have we whispered our Good Mornings, than our alarm goes off. Hubby promptly says “ Babe” and hits the snooze.  Then I’m up and at’em with my first born.   Just my first born.

  This has been the gift in all of this. I get alone time with each girl every morning!!

 Ms. T and I talk in hushed voices for those precious 15 to 20 minutes we get every morning before hubby gets up and out of the shower. Her bus comes so early now, that her little sister is just getting up when Ms. T is getting on the bus. They don’t see each other until after school.

 Meanwhile, I’m packing  lunches , making breakfasts, feeding cats,  hugging, laughing, chatting with hubby and  Ms. M.   Simple, family “stuff” that I’m privileged to be able to do as a work at home Mom. I have several working Mom friends and I know their mornings don’t look or feel like this. 

Then, around 7:15 a.m., after hubby has left for his day,  the house gets quite again, and it’s just Ms. M and I.

 I get to spend quality time with her now.  With each daughter getting her own time and space there is no more crazy rush for the bathroom at the same time, no squabbling  putting on shoes or  bonking heads to grab backpacks at the same time, no more sibling interaction equals no more sibling grumpiness in the morning!

 Ah, blissful mornings, full of peace and happy thoughts and hugs all around!  I am blessed and thankful. And to think, I actually fought against this re-zoning! Silly Me.

Do you have school aged kids at home? If so, what time do you get up? Are you a working Woman? What time do you greet the day?



12 comments

Minoaka Bebe said...

Two thumbs on getting your schedule down! I work full-time out of the home some days and some nights so our schedule is varied. But I am up every morning with my son usually around 630 or 7am, he's my alarm clock! If I'm not working or at least not til the afternoon, I spend the day just hanging with my son. I enjoy every minute of it because before I know it, it'll be gone!

Linda said...

Hi Cat,
Thanks for stopping by and sharing a bit of your routine. What a cute alarm clock you have!
Sounds like you have found a positive way to be present and in the moment with your little guy. It's all about the quality of time spent together, not quantity- Way to Go Mom!

Hilary said...

I loved reading your post on your morning schedule. How lovely to now have that quality time with each of your children :).

I usually get up about 6.45am, and start preparing lunches for my 2 children.

I used to get up at about 6am, and go for a walk over the beach before we moved. It was so beautiful watching the sun come up.

Linda said...

Hi Hilary,

Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing a part of your morning.
A walk on the beach at sunrise sounds glorious! I bet you have tons of photos of your time near the beach.

Heather Tovey said...

Wow. You make it sound amazing and somewhat effortless, though I'm sure you put in a lot of work to make the day flow. I look forward to having little morning rituals with my litle girl when she's old enough. Right now, our schedule just involves me waking up and carting her around the house while I try to get things done.

Linda said...

Hi Heather,
Thanks for your sweet comment, I appreciate the praise. I do pre-prep alot and tend to look at least 10 minutes ahead to keep on top of things. Of course, things were different when my babies rode my hip like your little one. Enjoy this time, you'll miss it when it's gone!

Anjanette said...

hey blogging buddy -- finally have a moment to comment! I read this last week and it has inspired me to stop begrudging my 3 year old the time that I used to have when he napped. He's awake all day most days now, but I have tried hard to capitalize on the chance to connect with him individually while little sister naps. Thanks for the motivation!

Linda said...

Hi Anjanette,
Thanks for the visit and commenting. It makes my heart smile to know my words helped another Mom.
I remember when my youngest gave up her naps around 3. There was a shift in priorities and energy level (mine)! Hang in there Mom!

Donna Perugini said...

What a great attitude, Linda! When the rug is pulled out from under you and you can only see the worst ahead, you stood up and found the positive side of the event.

Yeh, we really don't always have the 'whole picture' even when we've given it a lot of thought.

I love that all these sweet young moms are following you!

Linda said...

Thank you Donna! I do try my best to be a positive person, even when things don't go how I wish they would. That's not to say I don't grouse about things sometime, I'm only human.
I too love that I have some young Mom readers, it is my sincere hope that I can inspire other Moms to try working from home. It can be done.

Heidi Bee said...

What a responsible girl! You must be a proud mama. Changes can be so hard, my oldest will start middle school next year and I'm not looking forward to it. I will miss them both being at the same school to look after each other, and they will miss each other too. But he will have an earlier bus too so I will get to enjoy some one on one time.Thanks for pointing that out to me, this little blessing in disguise.

Linda A. Kinsman said...

Hi Heidi,

I'm so glad this post could help you find some good in the inevitable change that middle school brings.