Fall Back


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 Saturday night we set our clocks back and were thankful for the extra sleep we'd get after the busy, fun week we'd all had.

Usually, setting the clock back not only signals shorter days and my hubby getting home from work in complete darkness, but also a frenzy of activity in my business.

For the better part of the last 5 years, I was in direct sales, doing my best to keep my business hours " part-time" and not let the business interfere with family. With the " Holiday Sales" mantra so prevalent in our society, I can tell you that is easier said than done.

Looking back on those years now, from my new non-selling perspective, I see just how wrong my thinking was. They say hindsight is 20/20 and I must agree.

I thought I was happy with all that busy-ness. Even after I quit direct sales, I jumped into trying to earn from online channels, until I exhausted myself. It took me a while to hit the wall, but hit it I did.

And at the end of it all, our accountant always put down Homemaker as my Title. I didn't earn enough to warrant changing our filing status.
Rather than look back on this as a failure, I choose instead to see it as a learning experience, not only for me, but for my daughters. Sometimes in our effort to have it all, we fall short.

This is the first November in a long time where I am free to just be happy and in the moment. I'm just Linda, happy wife, mom, friend and it feels so good and liberating!

My to-do lists are not sources of frustration any longer because I can and do complete my tasks which are mainly home-centric now. Being a part time admin for my husbands business and a full-time wife and mom suits me and my family. I know that sets me up for ridicule by some who feel all Moms should be earning, but I don't care.
I think my happiness and that of my family is far more important. It is my job to teach my daughters how to cook and clean and nurture and build a happy home. It is what's in my heart, it's what my family wants. Does this paint me as a June Cleaver wanna be? Probably, and that's ok too.

To those who do work outside the home: I applaud you and lift you up high. I know yours is not an easy path. I pray that you are at a job that blesses you so that when you are home, you are content.

So, if you are reading this and are feeling stressed, please stop, if only for a moment and double check your course. You may be surprised to find you are on the wrong path. It's okay to stop and change directions.

If you could eliminate just one source of stress right now, what would it be?

Happy Holidays.
 
 
 

6 comments

blessedchick said...

our biggest stress would have to be finances. new follower and would love a follow back
http://blessedchick-trythis.blogspot.com

Heather Capewell said...

I think a lot of the downside to being a stay at home mom, even with a part-time job, is that most don't understand it.

We don't sit around all day, eating bon-bons, or shopping via shop-at-home-network. For some of us its cooking, cleaning, washing, and multiplying this by the number of children one has.

For me, by the end of the day, I'm so exhausted that I'm lucky if I get a blog post done, let alone my part-time job (freelance writer) done.

Donna Perugini said...

My biggest stress is getting a posting up on my blog two times a week. It felt really good to go away to a church women's conference and just absorb. I don't think anyone missed me, so I'll just start posting again and take more time off when I feel like it.

And I think I'll start throwing and carving clay pots again. It's interesting how I get into the 'get-er-done' mode and eliminate anything else in my life.

Linda said...

Hi Blessed Chick,
Thanks for stopping by! Finances are such a bigger stresser! We can only hope and pray that things get better for one and all in 2012!

Linda said...

Heather,
You hit the nail on the head! Thanks for sharing.
It is hard to break the stereo-typical view of at home Moms. We know how hard we work!

Being judged by my peers is what pushed me to continue to stay in direct sales. Now, I'm taking a much needed break and reviewing all my options before I jump.

Linda said...

Hi Donna,
Beliebve it or not, yes I did noticed you were gone! Glad you took some time off my friend.
Finding time to blog is a struggle to be sure, I think we are all on the same burned out page there. :-)
Hey, it's so funny you mentioned throwing clay! I am actually setting aside time to revisit some of my creative passions too. My friends are telling me to finally open up an Etsy shop. .. but I'm not ready to jump into that yet.